Good Morning!
This morning I am looking for some advice and help, so if you would not mind sharing your thoughts, it would be greatly appreciated.
Lately I have been feeling like "The Entertainer" to my children. I come home from work and am so excited to see my boys, pick them up from my mom's, who is exhausted and usually feeling pretty grumpy, (I think she feels that she has to be "The Entertainer" too. Get them home and make dinner, which I am an expert at a 10 minute meals - anyway as I am making dinner - EVERY NIGHT, they are after me to entertain them, now mind you I do enjoy playing with them and don't want to ignore them right when I get home - in fact I never do that - but I don't want to get on the floor and play trains, or Diego or what ever it is for 3 hours until Jim gets home from work. And I feel VERY guilty about it.
Sometimes I have stuff to do and if I am not paying 100% with them they act up. HELP!!!!!!! Please, someone give me some advice on this.........my mother says that she NEVER or RARELY played with her kids - that we played by ourselves and did not rely on others for attention or imagination.
So, what does everyone think and what do they do / amount they play with their kids?
Have a great day!
Patty -
P.S. As I am typing I am expected by Scott, my oldest to form a ball with the play dough that he is pushing in my face. I am getting angry!!!!!!!!!!
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I feel your pain, Patty! With 3 kids it is difficult to balance the fun time with all the things that need to be done...such as making dinner, laundry, emails, etc. My two oldest play nicely together (well...sometimes!) but with a 1 year old in the mix it is like a crazy house over here! Sometimes I will set limits on how long I can play. Maybe try to talk to them about a 'plan' for when you get home from your moms house in the evenings. Tell them that they need to play together or alone until after dinner and then before bath you can have playtime with mommy. There is no miracle answer...and every day is different and a challenge.
ReplyDeleteHope all is well with you guys! Miss our fun lunches of so long ago!!
Stephanie
You have to have a good balance. Dont feel guilty about time to yourself and it is important for the kids to see you have this as well. EVEN if they gripe about it. They also need to learn how to entertain themselves once and awhile. It teaches them self reliance and independence. It will help them learn to stand on their own two feet. Play it by ear, enjoy them, play with them but teach them to play on their own as well. It will also help with brotherly bonding at some point when they start playing with each other. You have to STOP feeling so guilty all the time. Your a good mom--trust that!
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